DEAR ABBY: At 63, I’m the youngest sister of 4 siblings. We grew up within the turmoil of Dad’s alcoholism and hoarding, in addition to bodily and emotional abuse from each our mother and father.
Certainly one of my sisters, “June,” was sexually assaulted by my brother. She’s 71 now and hasn’t labored since she was in her early 30s. She helps herself on Social Safety and a pension from her ex-husband.
Her ex-husband not too long ago handed away, and the pension stopped. She now expects my sister and me to pay her lease as a result of she’s “too outdated to be working anymore.”
Abby, June is completely able to getting a part-time job. She refuses to use for something regardless of my telling her I’ll pay her lease for less than two extra months. My different sister, “Lisa,” is guilting me by saying “we don’t wish to see her on the road.”
I’m about to retire after working 48 years. I labored two jobs till I used to be 52. I’m extraordinarily offended concerning the scenario.
Though I can afford it, I don’t really feel it needs to be my duty as a result of June gained’t make any effort to assist herself. Recommendation? — SIBLING DRAMA IN NEW YORK
DEAR SIBLING DRAMA: Schedule a household dialogue for your self and your two sisters.
At the moment, inform them you’re prepared to assist June and, IF she will get a part-time job, you’ll be prepared to pay half of her lease IF Lisa will cut up the price with you.
Do that provided that each your sisters are prepared to make it a joint effort.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I at all times host each vacation. Throughout every vacation earlier than we eat, we are saying a Catholic mealtime prayer as a result of we’re spiritual.
Nevertheless, not too long ago, my husband’s nieces and nephews, who’re of their early 20s, stopped taking part within the prayer. I’m OK with that, however they speak and mock our prayer whereas we’re praying.
How can we deal with this? Our kids observed how inappropriate they had been. I perceive in the event that they don’t wish to take part, however shouldn’t they sit quietly and respect us?
I’m in opposition to them coming into our residence, mocking our faith after which placing out their hand for a present. Thanks for any phrases of knowledge. — FAITHFUL HOSTESS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR HOSTESS: Wow. Your husband’s nieces’ and nephews’ conduct is past impolite. In the event that they don’t want to be part of you within the pre-meal prayer, they completely needs to be respectful and sit quietly till you’re completed.
When it occurs once more, the primary phrases out of your husband’s mouth after “Amen” needs to be to inform them that what they’re doing is impolite and never appreciated.
Nevertheless, if he can’t deliver himself to try this, the ball might be in your court docket.
DEAR READERS: At sunset, the primary night time of Passover begins. This main Jewish vacation celebrates essentially the most momentous occasion in Jewish historical past — the liberation of the Jewish individuals from slavery in Egypt. Completely satisfied Passover to my readers who observe this essential vacation. — LOVE, ABBY
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
