DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. Earlier than me, he was recognized for sleeping round. He has by no means cheated on me that I’m conscious of, however once we go to social gatherings (or simply out), he flirts with different girls. If there may be one other girl within the room, he retains his eyes on her like I can’t see it taking place.
Once I advised him a number of instances that it actually bothered me, he stated I used to be overreacting. When he drinks, it’s 10 instances worse. I’m making an attempt to let it go, but it surely hurts my emotions deeply. In his thoughts, it’s OK that we hang around with girls he has been to mattress with. He says it’s no large deal. How do I be taught to cope with all of this and be completely satisfied? I simply need the respect I deserve. — GIRLFRIEND OF MR. POPULAR
DEAR GIRLFRIEND: If you’d like the respect you deserve, discover a man who has some respect for ladies. Clearly your boyfriend doesn’t. If he cared about your emotions, he wouldn’t ogle different girls whereas the 2 of you might be out collectively. Doing so after you advised him the way it affected you is impolite and thoughtless.
I do know you’ve got invested a whole lot of time on this particular person, however he isn’t going to vary. Until you need to maybe be married to a womanizer with a ingesting downside, finish the romance now. (And as soon as that’s performed, ask your physician to check you for STDs.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband’s daughter lives in one other state. When COVID hit, her youngest was nonetheless at school. Once they closed down, the lady didn’t personal a laptop computer or pill (and the varsity didn’t present one), so she couldn’t do her schoolwork. We provided to supply her with a pill and run it by way of our cellphone plan so she had entry if their Wi-Fi received slowed down or didn’t work.
Quick-forward to at present: That baby is out of highschool and not lives at dwelling. Her mother has possession of the pill and makes use of it commonly. She has a superb job and will take over the plan. I’m nonetheless paying for her web entry and have paid for that pill many instances over with simply the month-to-month entry payment. On high of that, Mother doesn’t make a lot effort to maintain involved along with her dad or me. Months go by with no cellphone calls or texts, and the final time I dialed her quantity, I received a message that made it sound like she had blocked my quantity. Cellphone calls from her dad go unanswered.
I need to shut down the road the pill is related to, however I do know when she figures it out, she’ll name raging that it was a present. Nonetheless, it was a present to her daughter, to not her. Should I hold paying to maintain peace, or shut it down? — MIFFED STEPMOM
DEAR STEPMOM: I can see why you may be miffed. Your husband’s daughter is distant and never considering fostering a relationship along with her father otherwise you. Talk about this together with your husband. As a result of his daughter has a job and may afford to pay the month-to-month entry payment, there is no such thing as a logical purpose why try to be footing the invoice.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
