DEAR ABBY: I fell in love with my greatest pal. After I instructed her 10 years in the past, she distanced herself. We have been nonetheless buddies, however she went on making dangerous decisions in her relationships, and I by no means discovered anybody who may examine to her. We reconnected lately and have as soon as once more grow to be very shut. I nonetheless love her, and I all the time will.
She doesn’t share the identical emotions I’ve, and whereas I wish to ask her why, I haven’t requested as a result of I don’t wish to lose her once more. Am I improper for settling for our superb friendship? How can I persuade her that we might be rather more than simply one another’s greatest pal with out dropping her? — LOVESICK GUY IN THE EAST
DEAR LOVESICK GUY: When a lady distances herself after a person tells her he desires romantic involvement, it normally means she just isn’t bodily interested in him. It doesn’t imply she doesn’t “like” him or that they don’t have a lot in frequent. Nonetheless, it does imply that in order for you extra out of a relationship, you’ll have to look elsewhere to search out it.
DEAR ABBY: My little sister is getting married, and our household is thrilled for her. She’s having a small wedding ceremony and has chosen to not have a bridal get together. At first, I used to be unhappy as a result of she was the maid of honor in my wedding ceremony, however I respect her and her fiance’s resolution.
My quandary is that I joked that I’m off the hook from writing a speech, since I’m not the MOH. However — she nonetheless desires me to write down a speech and provides a toast. I don’t wish to! It looks as if she desires to have her wedding ceremony cake and eat it, too. Your ideas? — SPEECHLESS SIS IN GEORGIA
DEAR SIS: What’s your drawback? Why would you wish to do something that might reduce your little sister’s happiness on her special occasion? It seems you weren’t joking in any case if you mentioned you have been “off the hook.” My thought is try to be trustworthy with your self about your motivations, then dismount out of your excessive horse, write the darn speech and make it heartfelt.
DEAR ABBY: How can I get my neighbor to cease shopping for us pies? Her husband died a yr in the past. He had Alzheimer’s for a few years earlier than his passing. We’re more than pleased to assist her with issues round her home as a result of we imagine serving to others is the suitable factor to do. We don’t eat many sweets and don’t need the surplus energy. Well being is a excessive precedence. I’ve requested her to cease with the sweets, however she retains shopping for us these things as a thank-you. A verbal thanks could be sufficient. — PIE-FREE ZONE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR PIE-FREE: The following time your well-meaning neighbor brings a pie to your house, remind her that you simply and your loved ones keep away from sweets for well being causes and a verbal thank-you is greater than sufficient. If she persists after that, inform her that as an alternative of the pie you’ll recognize a fruit salad or a pleasant zucchini. (It’s value a strive.)
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
